Why is it that we allow our fears out in the fall? It seems like there are so many scary stories that take place in the fall. Is it the shorter day, the changing colors, the way plants start dying? No matter what the reason, it’s actually a good practice to look at your fears. More often than not when we look at our fears we realize they are not as big as we imagined them to be or there is something we can do about them. That can be one of the hardest things. We try and hide from our fears until they have taken on proportions of epic size and it becomes even harder to face them. And then what happens so often when we turn and face them? How often have you heard yourself say “That wasn’t as bad as I expected.” And still the next time something like this happens we revert back to those old avoidance patterns.
How can you stop repeating the same pattern of getting stuck in fear through avoidance and then finally facing it because it became too big and it seemed like there was no choice but to face it. We avoid fear because we feel it, not because we know it. Knowing that we should face our fears doesn’t help most of us. Instead we want to change the negative feeling of fear into a positive feeling of love or appreciation. I know for me what worked was to start drawing or doodling my fears and as I did that the negative feelings began to lessen and then I was able to start moving into love and appreciation.
What does your fear look like? Can you visualize it or draw it? When you do that can you feel the feeling of fear reduce?
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Jane works with Women CEOs, Partners, Principals and Executives who are looking for Clarity, Focus and Release. My clients and colleagues call me a thought provoking Business Therapist. My focus is helping overwhelmed women executives regain clarity, let go of ambiguity, uncertainty and fear, while bringing focus to their goals and objectives. I ask the hard questions knowing that you’re ready to answer them.
Jane is also the author of Put Your Big Girl Panties On and Kick Your Fears in the Ass.
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